If you were to ask the people who love you the most what they see when they look at you, would your view of yourself align? We all see life through our own unique emotional filters so it’s very natural for perceptions to vary. However sometimes, the discrepancy is that those around you see you as strong, inspiring, and totally awesome and you see someone undeserving of love, success, freedom, and peace.
If I’m being totally honest right now, I’ve felt like a total disaster these last few weeks and I’m learning to love myself and the mess just as much as the next person. As a citizen that has to leave my house and put pants on every day, I feel pressure to always be put together, made up and done up, and not look like the total hot mess that I really am. As a yoga teacher, I find myself often wondering, “Who am I to teach? Do I even have what it takes?” As a daughter, wife, sister, and a friend, I am constantly wondering if I am calling, listening, supporting, loving, and inspiring enough, spending enough time, giving enough of myself to those I love. All of that… well, it’s downright exhausting. Of course, we should question, introspect, and be growth-oriented and we all have some insecurity, sure, especially if this is a season of change or transition, but the bottom line is: you have a gift to give to the world and you waste it by constantly second-guessing and thinking of yourself as anything less than amazing.
Everything this month, from a partial lunar eclipse and full solar eclipse to a full moon in Aquarius and Mercury in retrograde, is encouraging a reset. This is a time for reevaluating current paradigms, lessening your load, shedding skins that no longer serve you. Sounds like a perfect time to let go of the insecurities that are holding you back from the life you’ve always dreamed of or from embodying your most authentic self. Perhaps it’s time to start updating your story about yourself to one that is true and productive. Perhaps it’s time to really and truly fall in love with yourself as you are right now.
I love this quote by Jen Sincero, author of You are a Badass:
“You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it’s got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid. Says who? You’re on a journey with no defined beginning, middle or end. There are no wrong twists and turns. There is just being. And your job is to be as you as you can be. This is why you’re here. To shy away from who you truly are would leave the world you-less. You are the only you there is and ever will be. I repeat, you are the only you there is and ever will be. Do not deny the world its one and only chance to bask in your brilliance.”
Take a step back over the next few weeks and really start to notice the way you speak about yourself, the stories you tell yourself, and what you think you’re capable of. There are no bounds, nothing too out of reach or too impossible for you to achieve if you set your heart to it. So believe in yourself. Instead of focusing on the things you don’t like, find one thing you do like about yourself every day and own it. Surrender to your fears, insecurities, shadows and know that they are part of your wholeness. Step into the power that’s already within you and, with that power, give to the planet what only you can give, unburdened by the weight of expectations or self-doubt. Know that when you choose to share your light, the whole world becomes infinitely brighter… so burn bright, beautiful yogis. 🙂 ~ Morgan Rhodes
I consider myself a pretty lucky girl. I have created a business that I love. And if you know me, you know I love STY like it's another child. I nurture, feed, obsess over, and tend to her at all hours of the day-7 days a week. Up until very recently I hadn't had an email free vacation in almost 4 years. I work this hard because I love it so much. Because I get excited to work 🙂 What they say is true, love what you do, and it isn't work. Internet, email, hot-spots, social media, all things that have helped me grow my business. I'm able to work wherever I am at. And believe me, I am super grateful for that, because it allows me to be a business owner and still be able to get away. However more and more I would end up spending a significant amount of time on our vacations, working. I think sometimes, that is OK, but sometimes, it's not. I was really struggling to find that balance. My husband is the same way. As a real-estate agent he is always working on vacations. Because this is something we both do, it became the norm. And I think many these days are living in that same space of not having any disconnect from their work. And no matter how much you love your job, there needs to be some disconnect. Some sense of freedom, or you start to lose yourself. One of my favorite quotes became such a reality for me.
I had no idea how much I had been carrying around. STY was growing into the most beautiful, amazing, magical creature, and I was struggling to keep up with her. For those of you that don't know, not only are we on the beach teaching open classes as much as possible, but we also offer bachelorette, wedding day and birthday yoga, and have many of these going on every weekend. These sessions keep me very tied into emails. For the last month I have been working with someone that could help me with those emails, and watch over the business when I go away. So that's what I did. I went to New Orleans for Jazz Fest with 14 girls, disconnected from emails for 5 days, and let go of all responsibilities. It was incredible! I saw more live music than I could imagine, and danced all day and all night. I cleansed, healed, and nurtured my spirit. I opened up my heart to all things magical, healing and loving and just let it fill my body. What I didn't do much of was sleep 😉 So I expected to be completely exhausted when I arrived home. But I found that to not be the case. When I returned Monday evening I felt totally rejuvenated and alive. I felt light and free. I felt reunited with me. Now, I did take a nap on Tuesday, which was also amazing, and then I felt even better 🙂
My point being that yes, the internet, emails, social media have all made certain aspects in our lives easier. But, it has also created this idea that we are always accessible. Where is our time to just be free, to be ourselves? And the further we get from ourselves, the heavier our weight becomes. So here is my challenge to you. The next time you take a morning off, day off, few days or a week off, let yourself completely disconnect. Don't check your emails, don't call work, don't worry about work. Completely unplug work and worries and plug into you. Make yourself a priority! I double dare you 😉 Because when you make yourself a priority, and you are true to who you are, things will fall into place. Your true self will radiate and you will become a magnet to all good things. Just keep reminding yourself - You are absolutely 100% worth it!! Love you guys ~ Melora
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I believe that New Years Eve should be a time of celebration. A time to look back over the year at your accomplishments, how much you have grown, realizing the strength you never knew you had. Every year we grow, and the more challenging the year, the more we grow. Instead, what I hear most is “thank goodness that year is over”. And then we sometimes set these crazy resolutions/expectations for ourselves. For most of us - there lies this underlying belief that we are not good enough as we are. Yes, growth is good, setting intentions…love it. But it is so important that these intentions are rooted in love, otherwise, our foundation might not be strong enough to hold these intentions. What are these intentions based out of? For me, my biggest struggle was feeling like I should be able to do it all. This year I am going to cook for the family more ( I hate to cook), and I’m going to keep the house clean and organized, which is kind of a joke because I am not that person. These intentions came out of judgment and fear that I wasn’t doing enough. Am I still setting intentions for those things, yes, but in much smaller doses, more my speed. And I’m kinder to myself if the kids eat noodles and cheese –again. I also have someone now that helps me keep the house clean. Talk about a game changer. Now my intentions can focus on things based on a love for myself - the woman I have been, the woman I am now, and the woman I want to grow into.
So yes, set those intentions/resolutions, but let go of the judgment. Creating realistic goals for ourselves is a wonderful way to grow and make our journey even more fabulous. But set them for yourself, not anyone else, and root them in love. Remind yourself that you are not bad because you ate a big piece of Key Lime Pie or fed the kids PB&J again. You are worthy of love whether you go to the gym or not, you are worthy of love if your house is a mess. You are worthy of love no matter what!
So…Cheers to a new year of growth and strength but double cheers to all that you already are. Cheers to your awesomeness, cheers to all of your accomplishments and strengths, cheers for being you!
Love you guys ~ XOXO